Monday, March 13, 2006

Watching the Pain

Have you ever watched someone you love deal with a pain so big you can't imagine ever feeling what they are feeling?

Have you ever watched someone you love make decisions that you know are among the hardest anyone should ever have to make?

Have you ever hurt for that person, and wanted it all to just go away?

My heart is aching for a very close family member today. My heart is sad for him. He is realizing that his marriage is over. It is less than 10 years old, his marriage, and he is hurting beyond words.

The things they've had to deal with in this short 9+ years are among the worst possible ... number 1 here, burying a child.

He is hurting, he is sad, he is beaten.

He is still in love with her. :o( And likely will be forever.

It is his second marriage. A marriage he swore would never happen, again. Until he met her.

I wish for the pain to end, for the healing to begin, and for the new chapters to be written.

I wish for him peace, and for her, internal rest. I wish for him to be happy again, for her, to let go of the anger, to stop running, and to let it be.

For both, move forward and love again. Both beautiful people. Both full of love. Full of Life.

This thing called life has so many turns, and so many bends. It isn't easy, for sure, but it is an adventure.

I consider myself so lucky. So blessed. I trust I will *always* be that way. But I realize, and recognize that I have to make the effort to stay that way, that it's work that's involved with keeping that. It is a mutual relationship. It has to be.

I wish everyone felt this way.

2 comments:

Natalie said...

Oh...how heartbreaking! I can't even imagine. Wishing them peace, courage, strength and healing in the days, weeks, and months ahead...

Francine said...

Oh, that's heartbreaking. I know what the loss of a child can do to a couple - I've seen it with my parents. People grief in such diferent ways and for such different periods.... it's almost impossible for a couple to overcome.

Wishing them all the best...