Tuesday, January 06, 2009

flexible

a while i'd like to think of myself as a somewhat flexible person, and surely a someone that can roll with the punches most times .... i can also be very rigid, and deeply commited to doing things my way (stop rolling your eyes, sean ....)

i've got an opinion, and if you're within earshot, you should likely hear my side of the story. i tend not to stand headstrong against something i don't wholeheartedly believe in, but i will fight tooth and nail on things i feel strongly about. and although you think your version, or side, of the story is the best version or side to hear, the reality is, i have probably got a decent submission for the better side. really. quite often it's a very good idea or opinion.

in my opinion anyway. heh.

:) :) :) ... i'm being a little silly here, but the truth of the matter is that i need to open this up a little bit - and discuss. i can definitely be ... shall we say, stubborn (!) in needing to express myself. (sean, stop rolling your eyes, and i heard that snarffle) .... and i'm not always the most open minded when it comes to hearing others expression of self, when that particular expression differs greatly from my current opinion.

one of the things i'd like to accomplish this year is the unwavering ability to see it 'through the eyes of another'.

i'd like to pause, and breath in the moment that tells your gutt to question what was just heard or said or expressed in some form. rather than react, just listen better. i pride myself in being a good listener, but what i tend to do, is listen ... then talk. i think i need to listen.

then listen.
then maybe listen.

and not share my thoughts. regardless if i agree, or not. just listen.

i know this will be a bit of a challenging task, and one that will feel quite different at the very least. but i need to try it and see where it takes me. i'm already a very positive person. i see things with all kinds of rosy glasses, and that feels right for me. i don't anticipate that changing .... but the shift to listening might help my rosy glasses expand the view, you know?

i bet the world will open a whole new story book just for me ......

1 comment:

Bekah said...

Checkin out your blog! And first, I have to tell you, your children are gorgeous.
And HAPPY belated BIRTHDAY to Cam.
AND.. there must be flexibility (or maybe rigidity) in the air this week. It has been on my mind as well. Maybe the frigid air makes us physically stiffer... and bring it all to the surface.
Ongoing battles.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
love, Bekah